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However exasperating a child’s behavior may be, it’s still—in most instances—age-appropriate. More than anything else, children’s limited ability to overrule their impulses is what distinguishes them from adults. So when they misbehave (according, that is, to grown-up standards), they’re prompted to do so primarily because of powerful forces in them that they lack the cognitive development to subdue.

If, then, it’s unreasonable to blame children for behaviors not yet sufficiently under their control, what’s the best way for parents to correct these errant words or acts? For if we’re to help our children mature into responsible adults, we really can’t accept that much defiant or destructive behavior. We need to teach them how to restrain their self-indulgent instincts and relate harmoniously to others. After all, we have a duty to properly socialize our children: to raise them in a way that will assist them in growing up not only to be successful, happy, and self-disciplined, but to be respectful, sensitive, and nurturing to others.

Parenting today—at least, non-humanist parenting—continues to focus on aggressive, punitive measures for altering children’s unacceptable behaviors. True, there are various forms of punishment, some much harsher than others. And corporal punishment is probably the most onerous of these parental options. Yet it’s hardly worse than the equally shaming—and scary—“silent treatment, ” which to a child is experienced as abandonment, for it involves the complete withdrawal of parental love, connection, succor and support. In a word, it can be felt by them as a mortal threat to their parental bond.

This three-part post will focus on the many serious problems with physical (or corporal) punishment and enumerate what’s wrong—both ethically and pragmatically—with this severe approach to correcting children’s misdeeds. It will also touch on some non-physical forms of punishment, suggesting why this alternative isn’t really an ideal solution either. Next (part 2), it will highlight what all children require if they’re to emerge as healthy, contented, and responsible adults—as well as furnish a list of which more positive, contemporary modes of altering a child’s misbehavior are most effective. Finally (part 3), this post will provide a substantial list of resources for further reading, many of which are readily available on the Web.

What’s Wrong with Corporal Punishment

At this point, the scientific evidence against disciplining a child physically is indisputable. Decades of research on the subject have documented its negative—at times, disastrous—short and longer-term consequences on their development. And not only is hitting a helpless, dependent child ethically questionable, it’s also repeatedly been shown to be counter-productive. It’s harmful to a child’s sense of self and, however inadvertently, teaches the child all the wrong things (e.g., “might makes right”). Undoubtedly, in the moment it can shut down, or suppress, the behavior that the parent(s) finds objectionable. But beyond that, the damage it inflicts on the child—and, ultimately, on society—is prodigious.

United States, affordablehousinginstitute.org, used with permissionThat’s why it’s so regrettable that although in America meting out pain on one’s children has definitely declined since the 1960s, recent surveys reveal that about two-thirds of parents still approve of the practice. And this holds true even though the United Nations Committee on the Rights of Children in 2006 issued a directive designating corporal punishment as “legalized violence against children” that should be barred in all settings through “legislative, administrative, social and educational measures.” This “treaty, ” ratified by no fewer than 192 countries, was unable to get the support of Somalia and (sadly) the U.S. And, additionally, it might be noted that over 30 countries have banned outright as abusive the physical discipline of children.

To elaborate on the above, scientific studies on a subject unfortunately still controversial in the U.S. have found that physical violence regularly inflicted on children:

· Harms children’s brains. It compromises brain growth and actually lowers I.Q. It’s associated both with cognitive impairment and degraded academic performance, and with long-term developmental problems. It can also affect areas of the brain related to stress and emotional regulation.

· Leads to increased aggression. In school, it’s correlated to higher levels of disruptive, or destructive, acting out—a finding demonstrated as true across cultures and ethnicities (i.e., it appears universal).

That is, especially in girls, it’s tied to greater vulnerability to depression and, in boys, to significantly greater tendencies toward sociopathy.

· Typically fails to reduce misbehavior. And this is true, even though—through intimidation—it immediately suppresses it. But, exposing its ultimate ineffectuality, it decreases longer-term compliance.

· Fails to provide adequate guidance on how the child should behave. Because its focus isn’t educational but retributive, such physical discipline gives the child little opportunity to learn, practice, and internalize positive alternatives to the behavior the parents reject.

· Can cause longstanding emotional injury. And this damage not only interferes with new and more adaptive learning but has been linked to various mental disorders.

· Seriously undermines children’s relationship to—and particularly trust in—their parent(s). And it can also breed a hostility toward authority figures in general—especially with teachers, because of the broad power differential between them. Further, because of the child’s inability to stand up to the abuse done to them, they can develop a generalized sense of powerlessness. Not feeling safe enough to be open and vulnerable, they’re likely to become self-protective, which later in life compromises their capacity for relational intimacy.

· Reduces compassion for others, and for themselves. Their parents, lacking in forbearance and empathy, actually teach them through repeated modeling that to be physically—and verbally—violent is an acceptable way of dealing with frustration. Regularly subject to such parental aggression increases the likelihood that it will become their own “default” reaction to any sort of disappointment (one reason that physical punishment tends to be multi-generational).

Source: www.psychologytoday.com

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